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Who Do You Want to Be?

November 11, 2010

We’ve all asked kids, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” (though I personally like, “What do you want to do when you grow up” because a child should never grow up believing a job defines their life. That’s another topic though) and they usually say something cute, like “an astronaut!” or “a doctor!” or “a fireman!”

Most adults don’t really take the child seriously when they say that because they’re kids. Most people don’t even know what they want to do even in high school. Major changes are imminent in college. So they take what the kid says with a grain of salt, and merely talk to the kid just because kids like to talk.

Then the kid grows up and starts a profession and then that’s their future. They start their job, start investing in their 401k’s, turn 80 (because 80 is the new 75 is the new 72 is the new 65!), then retire. Right? Unless they don’t want to be that person who retires at 80.

But that doesn’t only apply to children. It applies to everyone. In 20-40 years from now, who do you want to be? We are all grown up so we can’t say “what do you want to be when you grow up” or anything like that. It’s who. Do you want to be the person who retires with peanuts for salary, unable to walk down your own front porch without assistance from your significant other, who also can’t walk down those steps? Do you want to be the person who is old but fit as ever, still running marathons, still biking, still active, and whose children didn’t shove him into a nursing home? Do you want to be the person who builds a successful business in their youth (hey, you’re still in your youth at 40!) and gets to reap the benefits of their hard work? Who do you want to be?

Why do I ask this question? Because we all have an identity. We all have some idea of who we are, what we do, what we want to do, why we do what we do, etc… we can all describe ourselves in the present. However, what is more important is how you describe yourself in the future. After all, the present doesn’t exist instantaneously. The present I refer to right now has now become the past. Cool huh?

This is not very unlike setting your goals for the future. However, that is only one part of who you want to be. Your who is much more important to you than your what. Studies have shown that a person’s name is the most important word to them. It’s why tarnishing someone’s name may be the biggest insult to him, but praising his name would be the biggest compliment ever. Would you prefer a friend tell another friend, “oh, he’s nice” or “yeah Rasheed’s really nice!” I prefer the former. It’s all psychology.

So who are you right now? Yes you have a name. But who are you? Get to know yourself. You’ll need to for the next part of this post…

Defining your future with your identity.

To your abundance,


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