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How Do You Get People to Take You (and your advice) Seriously?

October 15, 2010

There are a lot of people I know whose friends don’t really take them seriously, even if they’re really smart, or hard-working, or whatever.

Why? Why is it that when a person has really good advice, some people still don’t listen? Even if it’s advice like how to manage your money well, or how to manage your time well, or even how to get people to take you seriously? (Haha recursive advice is recursive)

Well, after talking with a few people who have excellent advice, as well as assessing my own situation, I have come up with the steps to getting people to take you seriously.

  1. Take yourself seriously.

    Do you think you have good advice? How good? Well, if it’s good enough to share with others, then it’s probably pretty good. Doesn’t it just go without saying that you should take that advice?

  2. Preach to the right crowd.

    Do you have a great way to maintaining good health? Good eating habits, a good exercise program, or something like that? Awesome! But why isn’t that guy over there listening to your advice when it clearly works? Well, if you tell a complacent obese person that the key to staying fit is eating well and exercising, chances are, he wont care. He doesn’t see his obesity as a problem and as such he wont listen to you.

  3. Prove to others that your advice is worth taking.

    Many times, a person will take his or her own great advice. Following this great advice, what changes in that person’s life? If he isn’t getting what the advice is cracked up to give, why would others follow the advice? Good, practical advice will make a person healthier, wealthier, or perhaps a bit wiser with how he deals with people. If people cant see that your advice really works, they wont take it.

  4. Know your stuff.

    I discussed this briefly in my “What Don’t You Know” blog. Sometimes people will try to give me advice on how to change my life significantly, and I know for a fact that they don’t know what they’re talking about. How do I know? Well, usually I know the person well enough to know that they’ve never picked up a book on the subject and are just saying what they’ve “heard” or perhaps even regurgitating what the media’s told them. Or I’ve read on the subject matter and know that it contradicts what I’ve read.

    Now it is certainly possible that what I’ve read is wrong (I’ve read books that were false. Elementary school history books are by and large false). But that’s why I get several opinions on it. Several opinions of authors. Do research on the authors. Things like that. One person’s opinion versus a lot of credible writers becomes sort of moot.

    So know your stuff. Chances are, your crowd may know more than you.

  5. Don’t argue with naysayers.

    There will always be naysayers. If you truly believe your advice to be true, then don’t waste your time with arguing with naysayers. If they don’t want to take it, that’s fine, it probably won’t affect your life very much. Whose loss is it in the end? If you do your part to help people and they don’t want your help, then so be it. You can only throw a lifeline to a drowning person, you can’t make him grab it.

Hopefully, this will help anyone wondring why no one takes their great advice. Any questions or comments? Well, you know what to do!

To your abundance,


2 Comments leave one →
  1. October 17, 2010 4:30 am

    6. Interact with others, especially when they reach out to you.

    • Rasheed Bustamam permalink
      October 17, 2010 10:16 am

      Tex I sent you an email, did you get it?

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