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Do We Really Need to Pursue Happiness?

October 2, 2010

Are you happy? Like, really? Are you honestly happy? Answer this yourself. It’s not for me. It’s for you.

If you aren’t happy, what do you think will make you happy? A couple extra dollars? A couple extra hundreds of dollars? Thousands? Millions? Heck, why don’t we just give you a Venetian castle complete with a British butler and a Ferrari parked in the underground garage whose driveway is a drawbridge that allows you to cross over your moat? Surely you’d be happy then, right?

Or give you a really hot significant other, with the perfect personality, understands you for who you are, never argues with you, and always thinks you’re the most amazing person who they have ever met.

And let’s give you all of your health. You live in a castle, have a hot spouse, and you will live for 500 years without ever getting sick once.

You have health, wealth, and relationships. What more could you ever want from life??

The question is, will it make you happy?

I don’t think so.

I firmly believe that if you can’t learn to be happy with what you have, you will never be happy. You’ll always desire more. And it’s normal to always desire more. I remember when I was making a nice sum of money working as a technician. But each paycheck I always just thought, “I wish I got paid more.” It’s normal! Everyone wants money!

But do you need money to be happy? Why are there poor families, with both parents working their hardest, struggling to just put food on the table, happier than most well-off families nowadays? What exactly do you need to be happy? What do those poor families have that the well-off families don’t have?

I don’t know the answer to that. There are some poor families that have nothing. They don’t even have health. Maybe a family member is bed-ridden with cancer. No health. No wealth. And everyone’s so busy that they don’t have much time to spend together. And there are some well-off families that have money, health, and can spend time with other family members. But the poor family is sometimes still happier than the other family. Why is this??

It’s because “things” don’t make us happy. Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. You can choose to be sad.

When a person yells at you and spits on your shoe, you can choose to be angry and sock him in the face, or you can remain calm and turn the other cheek.

Happiness is a choice. Will you choose to be happy?

If you want to really be happy, try to find the inherent benefit in everything in your life.

For example, if you’ve hit a stagnant place in your income and find yourself struggling to pay the bills. You could mope about the fact that you’re struggling. Or you could do something about it. Most people who are just comfortable with their lifestyles never need to look for a better opportunity. If it works for them, why get anything better?

Most successful people I know (and by successful I mean making somewhere between $500,000 and $2,000,000 in RESIDUAL INCOME a year) started off with mediocre lives. Working as a waiter (did you know that Jen Aniston was a waiter before she hit it big?), or a mail clerk, or a grocer… and realized that they wanted something more with their lives than having to live paycheck to paycheck. So they looked for a better opportunity, and found one. And boy, did they find one.

If you’re comfortable with your life, you tend to stay comfortable. If you want more in your life, more time (for your family), more money (for vacation), and more freedom (for your LIFE), there is a need. This need is the seed to succeed. This burning desire to become much more than you are now is the very desire that will take you 2Success.

So if you feel like you’re struggling in life, that’s fine. You should be happy that you’re in the same place that many other successful people were a few years ago. And you should be happy that you have the freedom to do something about it. You can turn your life upside down and live the life you want to live. If you already are, that’s fantastic! If you aren’t, then you know that you need to do something about it. You need to learn more about how to make more money and keep it. The way I would recommend is a home-based business. Low start-up costs, virtually no overhead, and unlimited potential for success. Plus, sexy tax benefits! Take that Uncle Sam!

Anyway, I’ll talk about all that stuff in another post.

The point here is simple: do you really need to pursue happiness? Will getting that raise make you happier? Will getting that ring from your boyfriend make you happier? If you can’t manage to be happy with what you have now, you will never ever be happy with anything you ever have. So yes, we all need to pursue happiness. Pursue it in our minds. Our minds house our abilities to be happy. Light the fire of happiness and put that smile on your face. I’ve been told that my smile could light up a room… a room of gloomy people, none of whom are smiling.

Don’t you want to be the light?

To your abundance,


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2 Comments leave one →
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    • October 3, 2010 6:59 pm

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