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“So You Wanna Be a Hero, Kid?”

September 4, 2010

We’ve all seen Disney’s movie Hercules. Forget the fact that it’s a grossly inaccurate interpretation of Greek mythology. Focus more on the things Hercules was able to accomplish in the movies, even when he gave up on it all. And gave it all up. With his coach and best friend gone, he allowed himself to be beaten by the Cyclops dude (note to all: last time I watched this movie was at least ten years ago. Good ol’ Wikipedia is helping me out here) and pretty much gave up on life.

Then Meg managed to convince Phil to come back and help Hercules out with some awesome motivational skills. And what happened? Hercules bested the odds and beat Cyclops dude up! Wikipedia isn’t telling me how this happened, but I’ll just assume it happened with an explosion. Either way, Hercules prevailed in the end.

What’s the moral of this story? We need someone to believe in us in order for us to do great things. Preferably a loved one, or a best friend. Phil was Herc’s best friend, and with Phil cheering him on and supporting him, Herc was able to do the impossible.

What does this mean for us?

Everyone wants to do something in their lives. Everyone has ambitions. My own personal ambition is to write a bestseller. I absolutely love writing. Some people want to change the world through medicine. Or change the world through law. Or change the world through humanitarian means. In any case, everyone has something they want to make of their lives.

That said, I regret to inform you that not everyone will be able to achieve what they want to achieve. And sometimes it’s not their fault. I firmly believe that if anyone wants to do anything great with their lives, they need someone cheering them on. They need someone supporting them. As Celeste Holm said, “We live by encouragement and die without it — slowly, sadly, angrily.” Everyone needs someone who believes in them. Rarely can your own motivation be enough to stand against your critics, especially when your parents, spouse, siblings, or best friends are all your critics.

If the people closest to you are telling you that you can’t do it, you’re either going to give up or just get frustrated with them that they don’t believe in you. You may succeed in your endeavor–but with bitter feelings against your loved ones.

What does this mean for you, specifically?

I’m sure you know someone who is very passionate about something, someone who wants to do something incredible, go beyond boundaries. And you may think it’s the most ridiculous thing in the world! “You’re never going to be a neurosurgeon, it’s impossible! Why don’t you just be like us and live normal lives?” Hey, I remember that question.

But I’ll tell you this. If that person respects you a lot, and you shoot his hopes and dreams down like that… you’re pretty much going to make him very sad.

So if you know someone is very passionate about something, encourage him! Let him know that you support him!

Now, some may say, “That’s worse than just telling him he can’t do it! Because if we encourage him and he fails, then we’ve just made things worse!”

Whether or not he succeeds in his endeavor is up to him. If it really is his passion, he won’t fail. He’ll keep trying until he succeeds. He only fails when he quits and stops pursuing his passion. At that point, he’s given up. No use in encouraging him if he’s given up. But when you say things like, “I believe you can do it!” Chances are, he can do it. It’s up to him whether he wants to or not.

I’d like to end with a quote. “Behind every great man, is a woman.” I believe this to be true. Every great man in existence had a woman, be she his mother, spouse, sister… they all had a woman encouraging them from the sidelines.

So all you ladies out there… don’t you want to be that woman? The woman who is behind a person who can potentially do something great? How would you like to be the woman who encouraged her husband to become the president of the United States? Or the woman who encouraged her son to publish a whole bunch of bestsellers?

So get out there… and let the people in your life know that you support them in their passion. No matter how ridiculous it may seem.

To your abundance,

Rasheed

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5 Comments leave one →
  1. September 5, 2010 6:09 am

    Very well said!

  2. September 6, 2010 1:27 pm

    Hmm can’t remember watching Hercules, but you know it comes with age. You don’t feel like watching cartoons after years watching road runner, I even start to feel sorry for the coyote character (he’s one tough cookie, with a heart of steel, who will never give up), but I have to admit that the last cartoon we watch (wall-e) was pretty good :).

    Your previous post about how you *must* fail before you succeed (https://malaynetworker.wordpress.com/2010/08/28/you-must-fail-before-you-succeed/) has a truth to it if you can elaborate on how you can leverage failures to your advantage. Like Einstein said: “A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.” I have given some examples how to take advantage of it like, acknowledging it, learn from it, make changes to rectify it, don’t let it ruin your determination. Once you’re able to overcome this failure, it actually builds strength in you.

    We have to know how our mind works as a precision homing device, more precise than the guided missiles. You need to have clear goals in order for it to work efficiently. Once you challenge yourself to a project or a task with a clear goals, amazing things will happen in your mind. This is what you need as a fuel to propel you to the next level of success. You need to tell it in a simple straightforward goals, then it will do it wonders based on your previous experience.

    You need both strong self-determination and external support to succeed. The inner-self is something you can change as in the dua you recite when looking in the mirror.
    اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ حَسَّنْتَ خَلْقِي فَحَسِّنْ خُلُقِي
    “O Allah, just as You have made my external features beautiful, make my inner-self beautiful as well”.

    While your external features you can’t change, even though you’ve seen a lot of people trying to do just that without much success. You want all the good values in yourself as permanent as your external features. You cannot change other people perception, there will always be nay sayers. So if you rely heavily on external acceptance/rejection, you will not be able to strengthen your determination and becomes wishy washy. Your inner-self also affect how you portray yourself externally, so improving it is like being able to do multiple blog postings with one click***. Now that you know where the controls are you can use it to navigate yourself to success.

    Like always, I’m here for you.

    Baraka Allahu fik
    Love you,
    Abah

    PS: *** I don’t want to use the proverb about killing birds with stones, so I make a new one.

    • September 7, 2010 5:31 am

      That’s another thing about that cartoon: it pretty much says “persistence will only make you fall prey to your own traps.” Roadrunner never succeeds even though he’s more persistent than anyone I know! But I enjoyed Wall-E 🙂

      I try not to write too much about a single topic at a time. Otherwise I’ll run out of things to write soon 😛 so I try to focus on one or two main points, and then backtrack later. But I’ll definitely elaborate the next time I touch on the subject.

      I was actually just going to write on goals, you’re taking my material! Hehe. I’ll give credit where it’s due 🙂

      Yes, you need internal and external support to succeed in anything. If you don’t believe in yourself, there’s no point. It is possible to succeed without external support, but it’s never a pleasant journey. And as the saying goes, the journey’s more important than the end or the start.

      I like your new proverb! But I think people would be confused if we used it elsewhere. How about “all in one go?”

      Thanks for your advice, and for your support, as always. Jazakallah kheir 🙂
      Love you,
      Rasheed.

  3. September 7, 2010 7:40 am

    Yes, the roadrunner is very persistent and pretty creative too, but it was in the script that he’ll never succeed. That’s another thing we should learn from it. I mentioned it a little bit in my previous comment. No matter how hard you try and may even succeed in your perspective, you still a loser if it violates your natural disposition that is built in you. I’m pretty sure that there are robbers that are never caught, or the more common one, legitimized robber who makes money out of other people’s misery (usury, interest).

    Internal support and external support go hand in hand. The internal one is the one you have control over. You know, Tok Mak has always challenge me with her subtle words. Now she’s challenging me to take up jogging, it’s been a while I jog on the beach when I was a teenager and that was only < 10 mile distance. I'm accepting her challenge and will start training for a marathon or a soon, Insya' Allah.

    Baraka Allahu fik
    Love you
    Abah

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